A few days ago, we went to Costco for a box of diapers and a hotdog lunch. Marcus loves to get a Costco hotdog and what he calls "brown drink" which is root beer. I love the price but continue to think that they really need to get more tables because it is ALWAYS way too crowded and difficult to find a seat. Anyway, we were all sitting there visiting (Kevin and Nicole were up from Utah) and we noticed another woman with twin boys. She passed our table on her way to the condiments and we visitied for a minute or two about how old her boys were and how cute my boys were etc. She told me her boys were 18 months and when I told her my boys had just turned one, she said, "I hate to tell you this, but it just gets harder." We kind of laughed and then she left.
I've thought about what she said and the thing is, I kind of agree with her statement. I remember before I had the twins that everyone and all the books would say, "The first year is the hardest. If you can make it through the first year then everything will just seem so much easier." Ummm, nope. Sure, the first year was difficult because of the lack of sleep, the nursing, the recovery, and the upheaval of our entire household but now that they are mobile and have strong little personalities . . . wow. Things are messier, tantrums are thrown, and I am clung to by two little boys who are going through the usual attachment to mommy phase. They are so wonderful, but they are also so busy and so curious. The lack of sleep was difficult, yes, but during much of that first year they were basically confined to one spot--no longer. The other difficult thing about this second year is that they don't really mean to be naughty and they don't really understand when they are breaking something or going somewhere they shouldn't or playing with something they shouldn't. I find myself exhausted like I was during the first year but for different reasons.
Then there are the days when Marcus gives me so much trouble that I think, "These two babies are cake compared to this 4-year-old," and that is a little freaky because in the not-too-distant future I will have two 4-year-olds. Oh. My. Gosh.
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Funny. This just recently happened to me too. When she found out mine had just turned two, she just said, "Good luck. You are going to need it this year. I hate to tell you, but it is going to awful!" That's really what she said!!! Her twins had just turned three. Here's what I've decided...it will always be hard. Just in different ways. We love it and struggle through it all at the same time. Anyway, you always seem to handle it gracefully. So kudos to you for that!!! We should get all the crazies together sometime soon!!! :)
I've honestly felt more exhausted with a toddler than with a newborn. They are just SO busy - especially boys. Where does all this energy come from? It makes me wonder how anyone has more than 1 child... gulp.
Before I had a kid I thought how cool and exciting it was to have twins or triplets. HA! I just found out my friend is pregnant with triplets and it made my stomach do flips. She's got an 18 month old right now, and now here come triplets! I'm totally excited FOR HER, but if it was me I think I'd cry.
I'm in awe of mothers with multiples. You are amazing Katie!
Every stage has is ups and downs. I can't imagine having two of th same age at once. You are a gerat mom and I love to check in here and see what I can learn from you. Keep up the great works!
It just gets better! Don't you just love little boys?!
Sometimes I think I am going crazy with all the noise and the action in our house.
I have found that each stage holds it's own challenges. It's harder some days than other but there are times when I just feel so lucky to have three little boys.
Hang in there!
Hehe won't that be wonderful emery is walkin like a champ now for the most part which is soooo funny to watch.
Motherhood is exhausting on all fronts - physical, emotional, and spiritual. Most days I feel like I'm barely sraping by...and I don't even have twins! Good thing we can laugh about things.
Amen to the 4 year old boy thing!! Wow, I had a crazy one today!
Wow, nothing like a little does of reality from one mom to another, hey?
I like to think I was a perfect twin at all stages...but you better ask my mother (Tim's grandma) what it was really like with twin girls. But, since it was over 50 yrs ago, she might not remember exactly how bad it was!
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