I really need to preface this post by saying that my visiting teaching companion is really a great person. I honestly believe this. That said, she is not so tactful.
This months visits were especially exciting.
Visit 1: Sister A. just found out her cousin has stage 3 breast cancer. The cousin is a mother of two and pregnant. Very difficult and sad. After hearing of the situation my companion kindly said, "Oh, my friend's aunt found out she had a brain tumor and she died three weeks later. She had three kids too." Wow, thanks for sharing.
Visit 2: Sister B. is pregnant. She also has epilepsy and so she is under careful supervision by her doctors. So far everything is going just fine. Here were my companion's words of support, "I know a woman who had two daughters with epilepsy. They both had children. The first daughter's baby was born without a brain and no arms and legs, the other daughter's baby died a few minutes after she was born." What the heck? Why are you telling her this?
Maybe she thought these comments were in some way supportive but sheesh!
4 comments:
Hum, I remember someone in our BYU ward just like that. Maybe you remember too? I think some people really just don't realize how tactless they are being.
he he he he I'd forgotten about that :)
Oh. My. Gosh. Myabe you should call those sisters and sort of apologize? For the other sister's tactlessness? I don't know about you, but I remember just wallowing over insensitive this-other-baby-was retarded-and-died stories when I was pregnant.
Another funny one: my Grandma took my 9 year old cousin VTing with her. When the elderly sister opened the door, Michael looked up and said, "Are you still alive? I thought you kicked it a long time ago!" The kid has Tourette's bit still! Poor lady!
Ok I totally think you should say something really nice to her. Trying to one-up the sisters you visit isn't going to make them feel any better, but you already know that.
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